When someone is fair, we have respect for him. Being fair often shows the ability to treat others as equals. But fairness can also be a sign of arrogance, the arrogance in one's ability to judge and to evaluate situations in order to come out with a fair solution. However, in the general sense, nothing in the world is fair, and no fairness is absolute (or else there would be no lawyers and law suits). What seems fair in one moment can pass to unfair in the next moment especially in delicate personal relationships, and not the most powerful computer can track and evaluate the fairness of a situation. Maybe that's why fairness always sounds so cold to me. Humans are not machines and therefore should not put fairness above everything. Fairness is a good conduct in business practice, because business is about profit making. In relationships among people, the basic conduct should be love and understanding but not fairness. When someone is fair, it's because love is lacking. Fairness makes things work but does not make life wonderful.

Beware when we pride ourselves for being fair, for we know that what makes us truly happy is not fairness but love.